I'm in a place right now where I have lots of things that I think I want. They're all over the place though; some days I want one thing more than anything else, on other days it could be something random and different.
So I have to put it out there to blogland; How do you know when you really want something?
I'm not just talking fleeting wants, like "Hrm, I want those shoes, jeans, concert tickets." I mean big, life-changing wants. As in, "I want to move to England and work and stuff." Compared to the "I want to stay here and buy a house and act all grown up now." And then there's the "I just want to pack up and do my 50 day American trip and throw it all to the wind."
Cough. The latter won't happen for a while, but the thought is still there. I have too many things that I want.
But how do I decide what is most important? How do I know which "want" is the best one? Am feeling a wee bit lost.
yeah, i think these kinds of decisions are always tough. for me, i just try to really be open to listening to that little voice inside that tells me where to go. i think the want that sticks around, that's consistent, is the one to go with. add in a bit of practicality, obviously, just to double-check. :)
ReplyDeletelove you much!
None of us can give you the right answer poppet. You have to do what you really, really want.
ReplyDeleteBut Lara's advice is great. Listen to her, she is smart.
For your reference I did the move to England and work thing and now am doing the house and being (relatively) sensible thing. I don't regret my choices and still feel like I can travel again soon.
Whatever you decide to do, I can't wait to read about it!
Hey aly :)
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Personally, i think the best decisions are made on a whim. No over-analysis, no stress, no dwelling. Put all your wants in a hat and leave it all to FATE.
At the end of the day, if you really and truely WANT something you will get it at some point in your life if you persevere... Why not be spontaneous?
:)
Goodluck Chicky!
I second Lara's advice. Give it all some time and see which has the most pull, the one that nags you from the back of you head. A friend of mine taught my some visioning exercises, wherein you envision yourself doing each of the things you want to do. Where is it that you look happier? And which visioning leaves you feeling most content? Ok I know it sounds kinda insane, but no harm in trying right? :)
ReplyDeleteAnd you know, which ever one you choose to do, do it best. Don't look back.
I don't know the right answer, but I can say that some of the best decisions of my life were ones where I took a risk, or erred on the side of choosing something new or different. Not that I always decide that route...but that is what has really opened my life to a lot of things. I don't think we ever get old and look back and say, I wish I had done less, I wish I had picked the easier thing...ya know?
ReplyDeleteIf moving abroad is really an option, and it's a desire you've had for a long time, why not go for it? Staying home to feel more grown up is overrated..you have your whole life to be grown up!
I'd say... just do what feels right to you, even if it's a bit scary. Moving to another country to live and work sounds fantastic and crazy and exciting- a recipe for an amazing time.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely follow your gut. And, most importantly, don't beat yourself up about the decision. Sometimes, you just have to pick a path and go for it--one option is not always better than the other.
ReplyDeleteOh man, I can never make these types of decisions for myself, let alone for someone else! I think first and foremost, you should follow your gut. And secondly, why can't you have it all? Take your trips now and settle down and buy a house later on. I know, I know, easy for me to say!
ReplyDeleteGrrrr, hate when the dreaded double-post happens. Guess my advice is so good you should read it twice!
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